Thursday, September 17, 2009

I am a mother of three boys.

I am the mother of three boys.
I do not have any girls. I will not ever have any girls unless something horrible happens to my sister and I wind up with her daughters. (I don't even know if we are the ones she would give them to, but I'm just saying, that is like the ONLY way...also, I am not saying anything will happen to my sister and her husband, either)
I think that sometimes, people who have daughters do not realize how easily some people (i.e. ME) can have their feelings hurt about girl things. Because maybe, even though we really love our sons, we really wished for a daughter, too, and hell no I am not going to try for a girl...please don't ask that because that is a stupid thing to ask.

When a statement is made about how much cuter girl stuff is then boys. Or about how they are so glad they only have girls because of X (dance, gymnastics, bows, whatever).

It does not happen all the time, but it does happen.

Catch me on a bad day and that etsy shop that only sells pink bows and doll dresses? I might want to blow it up.
Then, there are days were I think of all the cute stuff I could make...if I had a girl to make it for.
Sure, I've got nieces, but their mama is a crafty lady and they don't need my stuff. Plus, I am cheap and don't want to pay shipping. It makes me sad.

Today I did find So Chic Baby Boutique on etsy. Not only is she super affordable, but she has some boy stuff, too. I really want this for Ethan, though I guess I could make it. I ordered a tutu witch thing for my niece's one year old birthday present. It's her Halloween costume.

Okay, so the reason I got on this kick is because before Brennan was born, we were told he was 70% chance of being a girl.


Right. I doubted Dr. Payne from that moment on.

So, anyway, Bart's aunt Jane bought these two beautiful dresses from some adorable shop in New Orleans for a shower gift. I would be willing to bet they cost a pretty penny and they are EXACTLY the kind of dresses I'd put on my daughter, were I to have one...heirloom, not too much lace, but some, beautiful.

I found one today while getting out winter clothes in the basement. I do not plan on getting rid of them. I got rid of all the other girl stuff we got from that shower when I found out Ethan was a boy and my friend Melissa was due for a girl...sent it all to her, except for these two beautiful outfits. My sons (when I get DAUGHTER in LAWS) better produce some granddaughters or I will be pissed and possibly disown them.

My darling, very lady like two year old niece, Brooklyn.

So, I know it might be hard, but try to not be too braggy about all things girls all the time. We mom's of boys might not show it or say it, but sometimes, it really hurts our feelings. (Oh, and every time one of my friends has two boys and then a makes me SO HAPPY! Really it does)

Don't think I'm a girl hater, cause I am not...girls are needed to make the world go round, but boys are just as important to that equation. I'm just on a kick right now...all because I found the beautiful dress I never got to use.

Don't feel sorry for me because I only have boys. I am trying to make up for it by doing more crafty things for myself and being the best mom I can to the children I have. Heavenly Father wanted me to only have boys for some, I need to sit back and let my life live itself so I can find out why.

By the way, I also really hate the word verification so many have on their blogs now. It is just a pain the butt for those of us leaving comments...spammers don't care. I'd almost NOT leave a comment if I have to enter a few random letters.

Ramblings end...


18 Words to brighten my day:

Anonymous said...

Maybe some of the dummies who feel the need to brag about how great girls are will realize thier mistake and shut up. Maybe they are jealous and really wants boys deep down.

Dawne said...

I feel you, mama!

Lori O said...

right there with you! i love my boys.

Lori said...

In my opinion, boys have way cooler toys than girls, which is why Madeline has the large fleet of dump trucks and about everything sports related that is appropriate for a two year old. And there is nothing cuter than a baby in a suit or sweater vest with a collared shirt. And I have to say, I really admire you for actually putting these thoughts out there. I would imagine there are a lot of people that feel that way, but are afraid of sounding like they are ungrateful or like they don't love their children. You are a great mother and I know how much you love your boys. Love you!

Jessica said...

Oh, jealous is a good word to describe me, too.

Thanks you all tons (etc. anonymous...cause i don't know who you are :-)

Anna said...

Well, I'll just say I'm a teensy bit jealous of you moms with boys because boys love their mothers longer. Girls love their daddies, but boys love their mommies. Plus, who wants to be clean and girly all the time. Boys get to be dirty and have lots of fun.

Over Thirty Mommy said...

When I started reading this post, I thought that my sister had started her own blog just to complain about how I have the girl and she has 3 boys. I do agree with Lori, boys have cooler toys!

Lexi said...

Okay, first things first: How do you number your comments?! I've seen that on a few other blogs and have spent a kabillion minutes trying to figure out how to do it to no avail!

Second: I don't know what to say about the girl/boy deal that would make you feel any better. I think as friends we want to fix things immediately with words of advice but there are some things you can't 'fix', you know?

I can say though that I love you and even though I have a girl now, I can say I know how you feel because I felt bitter disappointment about it too at some point in time (well actually for my whole pregnancy with Peyton and then the first 4 months he was out until he gave me the best toothless baby grin ever).

Any time you want to vent, I'll listen- even if I can't fix it (when I really want to but have no way of doing it!)Sometimes it just feels better to unload.

Sara A Broers said...

I am also a Mom to boys! Your post is so true and honest.

Rebecca1217 said...

Your post is so true! And I think anytime some asks a person if they are going to try to have more kids they should be kicked in the shins. I really miss Piper and getting to braid her hair, pierce her ears and buy her fluffy pink dresses. I have two dresses I've held onto too. I am so greatful for Leo and thank heavenly father for him everyday.

Jillian said...

you poor thing, I have a girl and I wanted all boys!! But God gives us what we are supossed to have!!

Megan R. said...

I get sad sometimes that I had a boy, not a girl. But then I remind myself that what I really miss is buying the cute stuff, and I love C with all my heart. It does get annoying when people go on and on about how cute girl stuff is though.

Sell...Party Of 3 said...

Can I just say that I wanted my daughter to be a boy so bad that when people would ask me what I was having I would randomly burst into tears when I had to tell them I was having a girl. I think every one should have older daughter won't have that. Bummer.

Lillou Handmade said...

Just wanted to let you know that I'm finally doing a giveaway on my blog and I was thinking of you and other moms of boys when I was deciding what to giveaway. I wanted to do something that anyone and everyone (that is a Tiger fan) would love. If you do win though, I'll have to figure out a way to make another stocking cuz I only had enough to make two and they've discontinued the fabric. Go check them out, cuz this probably isn't making

Lillou Handmade said...

P.S. I do still have some yellow and purple stripes like I used on the cuff and insides, so i'm sure something could be worked out, should you or someone else require another stocking :) And I heart you too!

Gwengom said...

Love your observations/ramblings!!
I hate that the "word" verifications are never even real "words"!

Gwengom said... makes me feel a little stupid to type in a "non-word"!

Anonymous said...

I love pink. I love girl dresses. I love girl books! I love bows! Thank goodness boy clothes got much cuter than when my oldest son was born! They do love shopping (not in the girl department, though. I love girl names.

You might enjoy my post on girls:

However, I think you get a bigger kick out of the three before "The girl."

Before you want to delete me-LOL- Remember, I am the mother of 5 sons! I bet you were seeing pink!