(Disclaimer, if you are the mom I am referring, don't get mad, but at least now you know my feelings)
Hey now, you're an all star, get your game on, go play.
Hey now, you're a rock star....
Only shooting stars break the mold!
|my Eiffel Tower glittered and I LOVED it!|
Today at a play date, another mother approached me and said she wanted to "pick my brain".
Now, I'm fine with sharing, in fact, I love to brainstorm to come up with great ideas for a mom to use to make a great birthday cake or party or whatever. I don't think I am selfish with my "talents" (though I am in no way "talented"...I mean, check out some of those party blogs if you start thinking that!), sharing ideas and tips with others from time to time. (this is where my title comes into play...just cause i sparkle doesn't mean i'm gold, lol!)
Well, this mom who wanted to pick my brain was wanting to know how I started cake decorating, how I got customers, how I baked cakes, how much did I charge for said cakes, etc, etc. Could she come "watch me do my thing" one day because she was very interested in getting in the business and selling cakes.
See, she is interested in getting into the "cake business" (though I would barely call what I do a business, more of a fun hobby that makes my friends fat) and wanted some tips.
I don't know why but I just felt really frustrated by this. I mean, my mom worked hard to learn how to decorate cakes so that I could one day call her up whenever I wanted to ask questions that are already answered on one of her DVD's or on her blog. She attended many classes, spent tons of money, and baked a lot of cakes to get where she is today. And I, as her daughter, get to steal all her knowledge for free, whenever I want. :) Now, here is the thing...I am not my mother's competition, nor will I ever be. This mom, to me, could potentially become "competition"...I think I would have felt differently if it was a mom talking over a birthday cake for her child or 90 year old great grandmother or something like that.
And that made me clam up and want to escape. I LOVE to share cake baking tips that my mom has shared with me, but I just couldn't bring myself to share some of them. I guess I could direct her to my mother's Start to Finish DVD and give her a fighting change...but another part of me just wants her to figure it out on her own.
Is that just too selfish and ugly of me? There's little I love more in bloggy land then a good tutorial, out there for everyone to see and share and make their own. I love teaching fondant classes and how to use the Cricut or any electronic cutter (SILHOUETTE LOVE!) to decorate cakes like me...but, I'd get paid for that. Not a lot, but still...
I don't know...I'm tired, I've got a cake to finish decorating (it's a 3 cake week this week!), I'm going scrapbooking tonight and tomorrow is a fun day...so my mind is not quite putting into words my frustrations.
Do you think I am being selfish to not want anything to do with this or should I embrace the chance to get to share the skills part of my "talents"? I mean, remember, I've stolen all my skills from my mother. If she offered me money to teach her, would that change the tune of my song? IDK...maybe I am making a mountain out of buttercream mole hill and just need to take a nap.
Anyway, where do you stand/stop on sharing your trade secrets?